A revealing and enthralling convo with Men’s Coach, Relationship Coach and new author, Stef Sifandos. When I found out that Stef is Johnny Elsasser’s mentor, I had to find out more. What was Stef teaching that drew a former special ops warrior to evolve towards full spectrum masculinity?
In Stef’s own words, as a kid, “I was bullied and picked on. I was growing and so was my own rage – the bullied became the bully. All the years of fear and suppressed anger was catching up but not before I was bullied, intimidated and mocked. As a teenager I was overweight and awkward. I tried but constantly felt shame and was self-conscious about my voice, my body and my presence (or lack thereof). I carried such unprocessed anger and trauma from my childhood that I projected it onto others. I was shy and sexually inexperienced. My first full sexual experience was with a prostitute just before I turned 18. I started my sexual journey late, but made up for it. Debauchery, prostitution, infidelity, shadow sexual exploration, mixing with the ‘wrong’ groups, exploring underground behavior and more was taking me down a road I truly didn’t want to go down. Fighting, arguing, alcohol and all the things were pulling at me that were distracting me from dealing with my pain. Relationship after broken relationship. Inside I was crumbling, being the opposite of that integrity and then blaming everyone else for it.
Then one day, I was caught cheating. I saw the look on my girlfriend’s face at the time. The pain in her eyes, my interior flooded with shame and memories came flooding back. Undealt with trauma began to resurface and I felt myself spiraling. Her pain and my actions activated parts of me that had been hidden for so long.
It wasn’t an easy road. I gave only one choice. LEAN ALL THE WAY IN. Go to depth and don’t look back. One choice with three possible outcomes:
- Commit suicide – the pain and shame was intense.
- End up in a psychiatric ward
- Break free from these limiting patterns and live to share and help others
Thankfully the third is what has transpired. I nearly went bankrupt, I spent countless hours in solitude, weeping, screaming, losing the parts of me that no longer served.”
Find out how the story ends in the podcast episode!
In this convo, find out about the 3 pillars that result in epic love.
Discover why epic love is the end-all, be-all for a happy, thriving life.
How to stand in your own power and greater confidence?
Discover new tools to build an epic relationship.
Find out more about Stef:
Stefanossifandos.com
Coachwithstef.com
Mpoweredbrotherhood.com
https://geni.us/TunedInTurnedOn – Book preorder
Insta: @stefanossifandos
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