**Why Only 10% of Men Are Good at Sex — And How to Not Be in the Other 90%**
A few episodes back, sex researcher Melanie Curtin dropped a truth bomb: According to sexually experienced women, *only 10% of men are actually good in bed*. Yeah. Ouch.
So the question is… what the hell are we men doing wrong? And more importantly — how do we fix it?
In this eye-opening (and let’s be honest, ego-challenging) episode, Dr. John teams up with badass sex educator Elise Schuster, MPH, to explore what it *really* takes for men to show up, connect, and bring the heat in the bedroom.
We dive into:
– Why emotional connection and communication are the real sex superpowers
– What women *wish* men knew about their bodies — clitoris, wetness, soft touch, squirting, and foreplay (aka: all the good stuff)
– Why so many women are actively learning how to be better lovers… and so many men aren’t (Seriously guys — WTF are we doing?)
– Whether it’s embarrassment, shame, or fragile pride that’s keeping us from leveling up
– The explosion of sex toys — and why your partner’s vibrator isn’t out to steal your job
If you’ve ever felt unsure, out of your depth, or like you *should* just magically know how to please your partner without anyone actually teaching you… this one’s for you.
**About Elise:**
Elise Schuster, MPH, is a rockstar sexuality educator with 15+ years of experience helping people talk openly and intelligently about sex, pleasure, and healthy relationships. They’re the founder of *okayso*, a free online platform that connects curious (and often confused) young adults with mental health and sex ed pros. Elise holds a Master’s in Public Health from Columbia and has worked at places like Babeland and The Door, NYC’s legendary youth development agency.
👉 Find them online @heyokayso (Insta / Facebook / Twitter)
This episode isn’t just about sex. It’s about being a better partner, a better communicator, and yes — a hell of a lot better in bed.
Listen up, gentlemen. Time to ditch the guesswork and bring your A-game.
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